Speak it into Existence, Babe

“If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down.” - Toni Morrison

One thing about me? I can manifest. I’ve been known to speak things into existence. Even as a kid, I found myself in magical scenarios simply because I believed if I leap, the net would appear. Though unconsciously, I knew that my words had power—so I spoke boldly, knowing the Universe would catch me.

When I was a teenager, my best friend Dawn and I wanted backstage passes to meet a new breakout band at Van’s Warped Tour. We were actual fans and had spent the night before poring over their catalogue. One of the festival’s sponsors was giving away a pair in a raffle, but the catch was that you had to be present to win. The sponsor’s booth was far from the main stage, and the raffle was to be held just 30 minutes before the band’s set. If we left to see if we’d won, we’d also be sacrificing our chance to be front row if we lost. Dawn initially wasn’t into taking that risk. "Nah, we’re not doing that," she said. But I pushed back: “I bet everyone thinks they won’t win.”

So, we made our way to the booth. We were the only ones to show up. Not only did we win the passes and meet the band, but we also got invited to watch the entire set from the stage. Like, on stage with the band. It was proof that God and the Universe conspire for me to have the desires of my heart when I move in faith.

But faith works both ways—the pendulum swings in every direction. When I’m tapped into my divine power, miracles happen quickly. When I’m anxious or fearful, delays and setbacks follow just as fast.

Writing as a Spell

There’s something humbling about looking at your life and taking accountability for how your words helped shape it. Writing is like casting a spell. The words we speak and write affirm the reality we live in, which makes choosing them with care essential.

But here’s where it gets tricky: as a Gemini girlie who loves a good yap session, gossip can sneak up on me. Gossip isn’t just spilling tea; it often hides behind things like “processing feelings” with a friend or offering opinions on someone’s behavior under the guise of concern.

Recently, I’d been praying for mindfulness with my words, asking God for strength to avoid gossip. The test came quickly. I’d previously shared my unprocessed feelings about a tough situation involving one of my closest friends with someone else. That someone later took my words back to the friend, creating an uncomfortable rift. I was embarrassed and ashamed because that wasn’t even how I felt anymore and their recollection wasn’t entirely accurate either—but I had to own it. I put those words into the world, and they carried weight.

Accountability is humbling. And in a way, apologizing and taking responsibility felt like a relief. Gossip is poison—especially when we hold it inside and spread it to others. Having everything come to light was painful but also necessary. It pulled the poison to the surface and put me on a path to healing.

Processing Without the Gossip

These days, when I feel overwhelmed and don’t yet have the words or courage to confront something directly, I take my worries to God, my journal, or my therapist. Community is powerful, but not everyone is equipped to help you process. Not everyone understands where you’re headed—or what the Divine has planned for you.

Looking back, I realize that when I gossiped, it was often because I wanted to feel part of something or less alone in my experiences. But I’ve learned that the healing I seek can only be found in truth and intention.

The Takeaway: Manifest with Purpose

Words have immense power. They can build us up, tear us down, and manifest entire realities. Sharing what I’m holding myself accountable to. And if it resonates, I invite you to try too:

• Speak with intention. Ask yourself if what you’re saying affirms the life you want. If not, rethink it.

• Take your worries to a safe place. Not everything needs to be processed out loud in community. Get you a journal. Talk to God. Process with your therapist.

• Be accountable and learn. Mistakes happen. But own your shit, don’t run from it. Think about what you can do differently and move accordingly.

And if you ever forget how powerful your words can be, remember these wise words from the great Toni Morrison: “If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down.” Including gossip, fear, and negative self-talk. Speak light. Speak life. And watch the magic unfold.